5 Signs You Need to Start Your Healing Journey 
5 Signs You Need to Start Your Healing Journey by Asha Wilkerson


The words, healing, inner-child, and self-love are flooding the internet right now and they seem super “on trend.” But the question often remains, “How do I know that it’s time to start healing?”

I’ll let you in on a little secret, healing isn’t just for the visibly broken or the down and out. Healing can also be for the successful CEO who hasn’t been able to balance her work and personal life.

Healing can be for the award-winning chef who is becoming increasingly anxious with all of the visibility.

Healing is also for the person who feels like life is good, but wants to make sure that they are truly becoming all that they can be.

Healing is for everyone, regardless of position, status, income, or mental state.

Keep reading with me as I share with you the 5 signs that told me that I need to start my healing journey.

1. I couldn’t cry.

For the longest time, I found it nearly impossible to shed tears. It was March 2017 and I found myself in the middle of a tornado. I was trying to wind down my law practice because I had just landed a full-time professor position in Sacramento (90 miles away from home) and was also a full-time MBA student. I had one or two litigation cases left, Monday through Wednesday I stayed in Sacramento, Thursday I’d return to Oakland to do all my homework, and then I’d spend all day Friday and Saturday in school.

To top it all off, my dad informed me that he’d be undergoing chemotherapy for prostate cancer that had returned and I decided that somehow, I was going to have to fly to Portland to check on him as often as I could.

I had to suppress my emotions and keep a stoic facade out of fear that if I let one salty tear slide down my face, I’d never be able to stop the onslaught of tears that would follow. At that point, my emotions had become the enemy and I was doing everything I could to hold it all together.

2. I couldn’t name any emotion I was feeling other than anger or sadness.

Because I had suppressed my emotions, I became so disconnected from my body that even 3 years later when I tried to turn my emotions back on, the only two I could name were anger and sadness.

Because I understood from a psychological standpoint how important it was to recognize, name, and honor our emotions, I worked my booty off to bring them back to life.

I would literally sit through meditation after meditation and healing session after healing session and it was slow going, but eventually, I started to feel again.

Although it still takes me some time to drop into my body, I can say that I’ve come a long way since being almost completely shut off.

Emotions are nuanced, and they deserve recognition.

3. I kept repeating the same relationship patterns over and over.

Have you ever felt like you were stuck in a never-ending loop of relationship patterns? I certainly did. I found myself attracted to the same types of people, experiencing the same conflicts, and ultimately ending up in the same heartbreak. It was clear that something in me needed healing to break free from this cycle.

They say that everywhere you go, there you are and it’s so true. I was the common denominator in all of my relationships and knew that I had to address myself if I wanted to show up and relate differently.

4. Therapy wasn’t enough.

Therapy is a valuable tool, but for me, it wasn’t sufficient to address the depth of my emotional wounds. I needed to go beyond traditional therapy and explore alternative avenues of self-discovery and healing.

Therapy helped me talk things through and to understand what was going on. But at some point, I realized that I needed to not just talk it out, but to re-write the stories and narratives I had playing in my head over and over that kept me stuck and feeling low.

When I started working with a healer I learned how to look at some of my past formative experiences through a different lens. A lens that provided grace and love, not criticism and distance.

5. I was exhausted but feared slowing down.

I couldn’t slow down. A relentless drive to keep moving, to keep achieving, had taken its toll on me. I was physically and mentally exhausted, yet I feared the idea of slowing down. It was as though I was running from something I couldn’t quite name.

Recognizing these signs was the pivotal moment when I knew I had to start my healing journey. It wasn’t about fixing something broken; it was about uncovering the layers of myself that had been buried beneath the weight of expectations and conditioning.

Embarking on this journey was transformative. It allowed me to confront the raw, vulnerable parts that I’d long ignored or suppressed. Through this process, not only did I change how I related to the world, but I fundamentally transformed how I related to myself.

If you’re reading this and these signs resonate with you, consider this your sign to begin your healing journey. It’s a journey of self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-empowerment. And remember, you don’t have to go it alone.

I’d be honored to be your guide on this path. If you’re ready to take the next step click on my calendar link to book a coaching inquiry call. Together, we can navigate the beautiful journey of healing and empowerment.

Start your healing journey today. Your future self will thank you for it.


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