You know what I’ve realized over the past few months?
Agitation in my life is the precursor to change.
I started my own law firm after my first employer post-law school downsized its workforce.
I became a college professor after being unhappy with litigation.
And now I’m leaving California after feeling restricted and held back by my work/life circumstances.
Every big change in my life occurred on the heels of agitation.
Every. Single. One.
But, we don’t like to be uncomfortable. We see discomfort, frustration, and agitation as a sign that something is wrong. Or more accurately, a sign that something is wrong with us.
I definitely thought something was wrong with me before I reframed my thoughts about the situations.
I went through all the paces. How come I couldn’t be happy with the good job I had?
I paid (well I owe) all that money for my education, how could I not use it to actively practice law?
You’re willing to leave California? You have so many friends who are now family and you’re doing well. And again, you have a good job!
All you need to know is that the feeling of agitation is enough for you to start exploring other options.
Shut down the negative self-talk and stop feeling guilty when things “aren’t that bad.” Things don’t have to be good, bad, or ugly to feel the agitation that leads to change.
You are growing and changing everyday. Your interests are evolving and so will the things you want to do with your life.
So, don’t sit there and feel bad if you’re feeing uncomfortable.
No, use your agitation as a sign that it’s time to make a change. That’s all it is, a traffic signal that it’s time to change paths.
If you’re wondering how to get past the agitation phase and into the action phase, do these three things:
- Write down all the things that are making you uncomfortable. Get clear about what it is that is actually bothering you so you can be clear about what you want to change.
- Brainstorm all the ways to relieve the agitation and sticking points.
- Take action.
Now, there’s no way you can mess this up!
When it come to taking action, you don’t have to take perfect action. Think of yourself as testing different options, some of them will work and some of them won’t. You’re just exploring and creating.
Afterall, it’s the journey that brings us joy, not the final destination.
Enjoy it,
Asha
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