Podcast: Clarity Comes from Action, Not Thought
EP 12 Clarity Comes from Action, Not Thought

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My advice to you is this: wherever you feel unclear, uncertain, or a bit confused, decide what the next step can be and take it. Don't ask what it 'should' be or what the 'right' move is. Just make a move, see what happens, and, based on the feedback, make the next one.

Asha B. Wilkerson

Episode Summary

Tune in to the “Clarity Comes from Action, Not Thoughts” episode and learn how to break free from analysis paralysis and start living your dream life.

I share my personal journey of overcoming fear and uncertainty to pursue my passions, offering actionable steps and empowering insights along the way.

If you’re ready to take the next step towards clarity and fulfillment, this podcast is your guide to unlocking your full potential and creating the life you desire.

Subscribe now and start taking meaningful action toward your dreams.

Takeaways

  • Analysis paralysis is a common experience where individuals feel stuck and unable to make decisions. The key is to focus on making the next move rather than worrying about making the right move.
  • Taking action is essential for gaining clarity and making progress towards goals. Each step taken provides feedback and allows for course correction.
  • Coaching can be beneficial for individuals who struggle with analysis paralysis and need accountability and support to take action.
  • The Soulful Homecoming Retreat in Ghana is a healing retreat designed for black women and women of the African diaspora to reconnect with their roots.

 

Timestamped Summary of This Episode

  • 00:00 Feeling Paralyzed by Decision Making
  • 01:21 Overcoming Analysis Paralysis
  • 03:25 Exploring New Opportunities
  • 03:55 Taking Action and Making Choices
  • 04:57 Gaining Teaching Experience
  • 08:05 Becoming a Full-Time Faculty Member
  • 08:54 Taking Action and Gaining Clarity
  • 09:54 The Importance of Taking Action
  • 10:42 Consider One-on-One Coaching
  • 11:41 Overcoming Fear and Trauma
  • 12:07 Building the Life of Your Dreams

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Feeling Paralyzed by Decision Making

How many times have you felt paralyzed by your decision-making? You need to make a change, leave a relationship, switch careers, or start a business, and you have it all planned out, but you always find yourself at the starting line, unable to move.

If this is you, it’s because you’re worried about making the right move, but all you really need to focus on is making the next move.

Stay with me and I’ll tell you exactly how to do that.

Overcoming Analysis Paralysis

If you suffer from analysis paralysis, you’re not alone and you don’t have to suffer much longer. We’re often so focused on making the “right” decision that we end up not making any decision at all.

Today, I will tell you how to get out of your stagnant analysis stage and start taking action.

Exploring New Opportunities

Way back in 2015, I was running my own litigation practice, and I was starting to feel stuck and miserable. I got up every day, went to the office, and worked hard, but I still felt miserable taking on new clients and heading to court. It’s hard to run a litigation practice when you don’t like litigation.

I wanted to do something different, but I had no idea what I could do. I looked at my law degree as a ball and chain rather than an opportunity to explore the world like I had anticipated it would be.

I couldn’t see how my skills were transferrable. Narrow-mindedly, I only thought I was qualified to practice law and that if I wanted to do that outside of California, I’d have to take another bar exam. For me that was out of the question and felt like another barrier keeping me stuck.

At the time, I thought I was unqualified to go into business and was totally uninterested in exploring that option. Leaving law behind felt like such a waste of money, but little did I know I’d earn my MBA and go into business coaching 2 years later.

I couldn’t see past my own limitations and felt totally and completely stuck. I’d spend hours ruminating about how miserable I was and how stuck I felt, but couldn’t come up with the right career move for me.

Taking Action and Making Choices

Then one day I had a serious introspective look at myself. I was sick of circling the drain and decided I needed to make some choices and take action. In the past I had lived by the philosophy of just try and see what happens. I had always told myself not to stand in my own way or to discount myself from something I wanted.

I asked myself what I was good at and what I enjoyed. I came up with teaching. I didn’t necessarily want to be in a classroom, but I knew that if I could somehow use those skills, I be more in alignment and hopefully start feeling better.

Gaining Teaching Experience

At the time, I had some teaching experience but nothing formal. So, I decided to create my own experiences to start working in my gifts and to become a better candidate for jobs and opportunities that required teaching skill.

At that moment, I decided just to take the next step, which was to get more experience.

I didn’t think I wanted to teach full-time, I didn’t have aspirations to become a facilitator or to take on a job with another company, I didn’t know what the end road would look like at all, but I knew that I needed to develop that skill.

So, I started hosting my own workshops to teach business owners about employment law. I started contacting paralegal programs and law schools to inquire about their adjunct teaching pool. I started telling people in my network to keep me in mind if they heard about teaching opportunities. I started giving training to the local bar association and the Chamber of Commerce.

I took the next step toward my goal without worrying about whether it was the right step. I didn’t even know my final destination, but I knew the direction I was headed in.

Becoming a Full-Time Faculty Member

Then, one summer, a friend of mine who ran the paralegal program at a local community college told me she was looking for somebody to cover for her while she took the semester off for maternity leave. We had a few conversations, and although I didn’t have the formal teaching experience one would expect for a full-time position, I was determined to be the best candidate for the job, and I was hired to teach full-time for the fall semester.

That connection eventually led me to become a full-time faculty member and department chair of a paralegal program in Sacramento a few years later.

When I took my first steps to gain more teaching experience, I had no idea that I would end up as a full-time tenured professor. Absolutely none, but it’s because I started moving in the direction of my goals that I ended up with way more than I had dreamed of at the outset.

Taking Action and Gaining Clarity

If you’re a perfectionist, a high achiever, or someone who puts a lot of pressure on yourself, it might be hard for you to think about taking one step without having all the other steps to your final destination planned out. You’re paralyzed by fear. You’re scared to make a wrong move.

But I don’t really believe that there are wrong moves. With each step you take, you gain more information, which allows you to make a more informed decision.

There’s a quotation I love that says, “Clarity comes from action” or “Clarity comes from action, not thought.” You have to take action to gain more clarity about a situation.

The Importance of Taking Action

Whether you are thinking of making a career move, leaving a relationship, traveling the world, going back to school, or moving to a new city, you will only become clear about whether the move is a “good” one or not when you take action.

And guess what? If it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world, and it definitely doesn’t mean you took the wrong action. It just means that your action didn’t take you closer to your goal. And do you know what the solution is? Take another action based on this feedback.

So, my advice to you is this: wherever you feel unclear, uncertain, or a bit confused, decide what the next step can be and take it. Don’t ask what it “should” be or what the “right” move is. Just make a move, see what happens, and, based on the feedback, make the next one.

There have been times in my life when I’ve benefited from a coach’s guidance to help me make decisions in my life and my business. When I’m stuck in analysis paralysis, it can be hard to break the spin cycle so that I can take a step. Most of the time, I’m pretty good at stepping and evaluating, but sometimes, I need some guidance.

Consider One-on-One Coaching

If you are an overthinker or an overplanner, I want you to consider 1:1 coaching seriously. You cannot think or plan yourself into the life you want; you have to take action. And if taking action terrifies you or if you’ve been planning to take action for over a year and haven’t taken one single step yet, you need some help.

In my 1:1 coaching container, I help my clients decide what action they want to take and then actually take it The difference between doing it on your own and doing it with me is accountability and safety. I hold you to the goals you said you wanted, and I help you create mental and emotional safety so that you can take steps toward your goal.

Overcoming Fear and Trauma

Most of the time, the fear that holds us back is left over from childhood (or maybe adulthood) trauma. I can help you identify what it is and weaken its hold on you so that you take action and do it from a place of confidence and power.

Building the Life of Your Dreams

When you work with me 1:1, you can take the steps you know you need to take to make your dream life come true. You will learn the skills necessary to become an action-taker so that you can take control and build the life of your dreams.

To learn more about coaching with me, let’s talk. Head to ashawilkerson.com/coaching to book an inquiry call with me and I’ll tell you exactly how I can help you change your life one step at a time.

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EP 12 Clarity Comes from Action, Not Thought

Podcast: Clarity Comes from Action, Not Thought

“Clarity Comes from Action, Not Thoughts” shows you how to break free from analysis paralysis and start living your dream life. If you’re ready to take the next step towards clarity and fulfillment, this podcast is your guide to unlocking your full potential and creating the life you desire.

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